Memo from Child to Parents

1. Don’t spoil me. I know quite well that I ought not to have all I ask for. I am only testing you

2. Don’t be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer it, it makes me feel secure

3. Don’t let me form bad habits. I have to rely on you to detect them in the early stages

4. Don’t make me feel smaller than I am. It only makes me behave stupidly ‘big’

5. Don’t correct me in front of people if you can help it. I’ll take much more notice if you talk quietly with me in private

6. Don’t make me feel that my mistakes are sins. It upset my sense of values

7. Don’t protect ne from consequences. I need to learn the painful way sometimes

8. Don’t be too upset when I say “ I hate you”. Sometimes it isn’t you I hate but your power to thwart me

9. Don’t take too much notice of my small ailments. Sometimes they get me the attention I need

10. Don’t nag. If you do, I shall have to protect myself by appearing deaf

11. Don’t forget that I cannot explain my self as well as I should like. That is why I am not always accurate

12. Don’t put me off when I ask questions. If you do, you will find that I am stop asking and seek my information elsewhere 13. Don’t be inconsistent. That completely confuses me and makes me lose faith in you

14. Don’t tell me my fears are silly. They are terribly real and you can do much to reassure me if you try to understand

15. Don’t ever suggest that you are perfect or infallible. It gives me too great a shock when I discover that you are neither

16. Don’t ever think that it is beneath your dignity to apologive to me. An honest apology makes me feel surprisingly warm towards you

17. Don’t forget I love experimenting. I couldn’t get along without it, so please put up with it.

18. Don’t forget how quickly I am growing up. It must be very difficult for you to keep pace with me, but please do try

19. Don’t forget that I don’t thrive without lots of love and understanding, but I don’t need to tell you, do I ?

20. Please keep yourself fit and healthy. I need you

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